Miscarriage / Stillbirth
When you have yearned to hold and love your own new-born and had that joy taken away, it can be
difficult to come to terms with the quiet grief that follows miscarriage.
Common Reactions
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Disappointment
Plans and dreams for your baby's future are gone. - Fear
At the time of miscarriage, emotional and physical fear can be very real.
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Guilt
It is only natural that such a sudden loss makes our minds reach for an explanation e.g. 'was it something I did? Maybe the shopping was too heavy and so on'. -
Anger
This isn't fair. Why has this happened to me? -
Physical
Exhaustion, unable to sleep, crying, lack of concentration, pains and aches.
Different Responses
Response to miscarriage may differ in different people. Mum and Dad of the child often differ in their level
of grief (this often leads to conflict between the couple) and often the stage of pregnancy when
miscarriage happens can affect the sense of loss. Varied responses to miscarriage are normal. No one can
tell you the 'correct' way to handle pain.
Counselling can offer you the space and time needed to work through your grief and be able to re-adjust
your life around your loss.