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Issues we deal with...

- Anger - Anxiety/Stress - Bereavement
- Depression - Pregnancy Related Issues - Relationships - Self Esteem - Trauma

- Anger

Anger can cause many problems if not expressed healthily. It can ruin relationships, affect you in school and the work place and even threaten your safety and that of others, especially if it is fuelled by alcohol or drugs.
Anger as an emotion is not wrong or bad. It gets a bad press because it is usually associated with anti-social behaviour, aggression and violence. Anyone can feel angry from time to time but it becomes a problem when it gets out of control and turns to rage which hurts people and property.
If you recognise this as a pattern in your life then talking it through with a trained counsellor will help you get perspective. You can learn how to recognise what triggers your anger and how to deal with it as it occurs instead of letting it build up and spill over into aggression.

- Anxiety / Stress
We live in stressful times. No-one is immune from the pressures of daily living whether it's financial, relational, physical, emotional or circumstantial. Anxiety is based on fear and feelings of being out of control. This might manifest itself in panic attacks.
When is stress a problem? Stress is the body's normal response to a challenge or a threat. Adrenaline is released to prepare the body for 'fight or flight'. Some stress is good and can motivate you to do what you need to do. Stress only becomes a problem when the levels of adrenaline become excessive. If this happens the symptoms of stress may become severe and instead of being motivated the body feels under pressure and shuts down.
Counselling can help you manage your stress and learn techniques to overcome anxiety. Having someone to listen to you in a non-judgemental way may help you to find a way through your situation. Contact us to speak in confidence to one of our counsellors.

- Bereavement
The loss of a loved one is something that can affect all of us at some time in our lives. Some people struggle for years after the death of their loved one. Many have said that if only they had had someone to talk to it would have made their grieving more bearable.
We offer individual counselling for grief and loss. Everyone deals with grief differently. There is no right or wrong way to cope with grief.

- Depression
Anyone can suffer from depression - it is a very common experience and most people recover with help and support. There are different types of depression and your GP will be able to discuss your individual circumstances with you. It can also be a symptom of something under the surface, perhaps something that happened in the past and has never been resolved. Depression responds very well to 'talking therapies' and many GPs suggest counselling either before trying medication or in addition to it.

- Pregnancy Related Issues
Care in Crisis offers counselling services for those who are seeking answers to unresolved issues across a variety of pregnancy-related issues: unplanned pregnancy, miscarriage or stillbirth, post-natal depression and post-abortion.
Care in Crisis can provide counselling sessions to allow you to talk about your circumstances, without being judged or told what to do. You may choose to come on your own or with your partner.

- Relationships: Couples/Family
We offer counselling for relationships either within or outside of marriage. You may decide to come as a couple or individually. We cannot offer counselling to couples in joint sessions where there is currently domestic abuse or alcohol addiction/dependency.
Relationship counselling isn't confined to couples. Many relationship difficulties are between parents and children, especially adolescents, and we can offer support for both parties, either individually or as a family, teenager and parent. This can be an opportunity for parents and teenagers to sort out their difficulties and gain a better understanding of themselves and their individual roles within the family.

- Self-esteem
Self-esteem is the value you place on yourself. When this has been constantly worn away over the years by negative put-downs and rejection it is difficult for people to feel that they are worth much.
Low self-esteem hampers achievement, satisfaction, fulfilment and pleasure in school, work, leisure, marriage and other relationships.
You could benefit from the unconditional support within a restorative counselling relationship. A trained counsellor can help you begin the journey to discovering your unique self. Remember... you are a person of value and worth.

- Trauma
Psychological trauma can occur after a particularly distressing event or a series of enduring events. These events are typically so far outside of our normal experiences, however, our reactions to them, while seeming somewhat unusual or disturbing, are normal reactions. The sooner you seek help the better. You may be experiencing flashbacks, nightmares, sleep disturbance, anger and generally feelings of being overwhelmed and not able to cope.
Causes can be abuse, violence, accidents, catastrophic events, terminal illness/bereavement. Typically trauma can present itself in counselling as depression, anxiety or stress. Our counsellors will help you to identify the underlying issue and work with you in a safe and secure environment.

 

Peer Pressure - Sex & Relationships - Emotional Problems
- Teenage Pregnancy - Sexuality
- Body Image/Disordered eating

Children & Parents/Carers

We are now offering counselling to children aged 6 and over. For primary school age children it is useful for the counsellor to meet with a parent/carer prior to counselling commencing so that you can share any relevant concerns or information to help us help your child.
There are many issues that children find difficult to deal with whether it is at school or at home. This can manifest itself in emotional distress or behavioural problems. We find that children respond well to the use of artwork and play to express themselves in sessions.
We also have counsellors in some primary schools in the local area so your child may be able to be referred through the pastoral care teacher. Please ask either at your child's school or by phoning us on 028 3832 9900.

- Teen Issues
It's tough being a young person today. There's so much pressure. Pressure from family, friends, relationships, school, exams etc., not to mention the stuff going on inside you as you make choices now that are going to shape your future.

- Peer Pressure
As you begin to move away from reliance on your parents and widen your social circle, you become more open to influence outside of the family that you have grown up with. Generally it's a healthy process with few problems, but sometimes your friends' values will be different from yours and this can really test your sense of who you are.
When you are under pressure from others, remember that it's not a sign of weakness to seek some sound advice from parents or other trusted adults in your life. It's easy to get sucked in and feel trapped, but it's never too late. You might need to talk to someone outside your family, that's OK - but do it, don't try to sort things out yourself if you feel it's all too much.

- Sex & Relationships
You may feel under pressure to be sexually active in the relationship you're in at the moment. Remember, it's your body and you have the right to say "No!" Once you do it, you can't undo it. Don't be rushed, consider the possible outcomes. If your partner respects you they will wait.
If you're already sexually active and worried about any of these issues, don't panic. You might like to talk them through with one of our counsellors who won't judge you or your lifestyle and will listen and offer you support. Just contact the office to make an appointment.
If you need more information in the meantime the Love for Life website www.loveforlife.org.uk will help with these issues and more including sexuality, pornography and masturbation, abstinence and contraception.

- Emotional Problems
You may think that sex brings you closer, but the opposite is more accurate. Sexually active teenagers often regret having sex in their early teens and report feeling 'used'. The resulting hurts can lead to low self-esteem and depression.

- Teenage Pregnancy
An unplanned pregnancy is a shock to anyone. Becoming a parent is a big responsibility. It can change or delay the direction of your life as you now have another person to consider in the decisions you make.
We offer an opportunity to talk through your options: -
- Choosing to keep the baby can be very challenging when you're young yourself and you need lots of support.
- Adoption is another choice, which means going through with the pregnancy and giving the baby up at birth to parents who may not be able to have children of their own and who have been approved by Social Services for adoption.
- Some girls consider abortion as an easy solution. Abortion is illegal in Northern Ireland. However, although a termination may end the pregnancy, it won't end your problems. It is just a trade for psychological and emotional problems which then have to be dealt with.
None of the above options is easy. Each has life-long consequences, so it is important not to rush into anything. Contact us to talk things through with one of our counsellors.

- Sexuality
Your body is changing and doing all sorts of strange things. It's not unusual in adolescence to be confused about sexuality and it helps to be able to talk through your feelings with someone who will not judge you or tell you what to do.

- Body Image/ Disordered Eating
Body Image is the inner mental picture you have of your body and is closely related to self- esteem or its absence. You can change your appearance through dieting, dedicated exercise or designer clothing, but until you directly address the roots of bad feeling about your body, the problem remains untouched.
Contact us to speak with a counsellor or contact www.adapteatingdistress.com - a registered charity based in Lurgan who have set up a new website for young people suffering from eating disorders, offering online support, information and a telephone helpline service.

 

Other sources of information regarding types of counselling and counselling resources can be found here: www.counselling-directory.org.uk

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