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When you have yearned to hold and love your own new-born
and had that joy taken away it can be difficult to come to terms with the
quiet grief that follows miscarriage.
Common Reactions
- Disappointment
Plans and dreams for your baby's future are
gone.
- Fear
At the time of miscarriage, emotional and
physical fear can be very real.
- Guilt
It is only natural that such a sudden loss makes
our minds reach for an explanation, e.g., was it something I did, maybe
the shopping was too heavy and so on.
- Anger
This isn't fair, why has this happened to me?
- Physical
Exhaustion, unable to sleep, crying, lack of
concentration, pains and aches.
Different Responses
Response to miscarriage may differ in different people.
Mum and Dad of the child often differ in their level of grief (this often
leads to conflict between the couple) and often the stage of pregnancy
when miscarriage happens can affect the sense of loss. Varied responses
to miscarriage are normal. No one can tell you the "correct" way to
handle pain.
HopeIt is
hard to turn your energies away from your loss and the grieving process is
hard work. Focus has to turn to hope and joy. Deliberately letting go of
the pain can be hard but it is a necessary part of the healing process. |
